The Ultimate Girlboss Tips from Daenerys Targaryen

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Game of Thrones' Daenerys Targaryen. She’s the ultimate girlboss, right? Who could imagine a young once-fragile girl conquering whole kingdoms, commanding the respect of armies, and outwitting political enemies?

Yes, she is that amazing – an accurate representation of the modern woman.

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Her rule over Essos is a manifestation of her proficiency in persuasion, aggressive risk-taking, and management – three very essential qualities of being a good leader. George R. R. Martin gave us a clear picture of this Targaryen heir’s inspiring journey from the bottom to being the queen of the Eastern lands. Her detailed experiences in the books definitely helped me see how it is like to be a girlboss.

Here’s what I learned:

01. Learn to be Meek and Persevere.


All odds were against Daenerys and her irate brother after Robert’s rebellion. The Baratheons, Lannisters, and Starks sacked King’s Landing from the Targaryens and this event turned Dany and her brother into exiles. It’s apparent from this circumstance alone that this young princess has been dealt a pretty bad hand early on in her childhood.

During the years of exile in Essos, this Targaryen was made to carry heavy burdens of sacrifice for her namesake. At a young age, she was made to face an arranged marriage to the rough and no-nonsense Khal Drogo, who commands a massive army. Realizing that this would help her regain the kingdom, she meekly accepted the situation; and in a positive turn of events, ended up actually falling in-love with the Khal.

This could have been the start of some favorable things for her, but unfortunately, Khal Drogo fell sick and died, leaving behind some rumored dragon eggs. Cursing the cruelty of the world and in total despair, Daenerys almost lost her sanity. But, she did not give up. Instead, she wiped her tears, chose to disregard her misfortunes, and continued on.

From here we can see a great example of meekness and perseverance. However, meekness and perseverance are the two traits where most people commonly fail – this is because the human mind is naturally wired to react against danger or discomfort. It cannot be emphasized, though, how much opportunities are being lost only because of a bad temper, or how many supposed victories ending up being spoiled and unattained because of people giving up too early. The secret to meekness and perseverance is having a strong sense of personal worth and an unwavering and fixed focus to a goal. You’re a girlboss. Keep in mind how awesome that is, how awesome you are –pretty much like how Daenerys always reminds herself that she is the Mother of Dragons. Condition your mind like this, and the temptation to retaliate becomes easier to resist. Couple this with an almost stubborn focus to a goal, and you’ll realize that misfortune will remain just on your periphery –blurred and bearable.


02. Play by your Strengths.


Dragons are one of the major highlights that sets Daenerys apart from other characters, and she knows that being someone who could tame these creatures solidified her claim to the iron throne. While it helps having these flying flamethrowers grill your enemies to ash, or make your most stubborn followers tremble upon your orders, in real life, it’s difficult to look for something that can serve as an equally awesome substitute.

However, it’s also important to remember that these dragons were as fragile as sheep during their infancy – not to mention, these are one of the most coveted things in the GoT world. They are only as good as how carefully the Targaryen queen has taken care of them. The lesson that we can learn from Daenerys right there is how to accurately recognize, maintain, and play by your strengths.

For example, if you’re good at handling people, you could focus more on the relationships side of your work, then delegate the more clerical side. If your expertise is at decision-making, then you could focus on the research side of your work so that you have a broader scope of finding the niches. If you’re good at work output, then you could focus on training your staff or making templates on the proper work methods. Like Daenerys, focus on whatever your strengths are, then use them as foundations for your team’s growth.


03. Look the Part.


Some may say that looks are just on the surface, but in reality, most people take visual impressions much more seriously. Daenerys, no matter the situation, never fails to exude class and majesty that is deserving of her birth-right. A good example of this would be her time in Mereen when she freed the slave city from the tyrannical rule of its masters. Whenever she would be in her throne room or at a public appearance, she wears an iconic queen Daenerys Targaryen costume and makes it a point to look extravagantly beautiful. This makes her stand out and earn the initial respect of strangers that are not familiar with her way of rule.

Your inner energy is most easily transmitted to the material world through the clothes you wear. If you’re in the office lounging around in your sexy night-out clothes, while it might not be true, this might cause the people under you to subliminally assume that you are not taking the job that seriously after all. So, if you want to be an effective girlboss, you have to be conscious about how you look. This will not only make you stunning (in an office-friendly way), but more importantly, this will exude your position of authority, much like how Danearys automatically exudes her queenly status wherever she goes.


These lessons that we can learn from Daenerys focus on acquiring and demonstrating true value as well as commanding respect. These will not only help you become an even more awesome girlboss; but more importantly, a tough woman who is aware of techniques to navigating her way through the problems of everyday life.

18 comments:

  1. Oh how I love this :) We can all learn from her best traits and apply them to our own lives .

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  2. This is great! Such good traits to have!

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  3. Great post! I don’t watch this show, great traits to learn from!

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  4. Ok, I stinking love this post and I looooove Daenerys its hard to be the boss but she is a great example of sticking with it regardless of the odds stacked against you.

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  5. Awesome tips to be an awesome girl boss. Who would not want so? Exciting and impressive post.

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  6. Daenerys has to be my favorite GOT character. She has grown so much from the first season, when she was just a secondary character to to game changer she is in the 7th.

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  7. Ok you're probably going to face-palm when you read this, but I've never watched GOT!! I need to find a way because it's all I hear anyone talk about when it comes to shows to watch. But to the point of your post, I love how these tips are so simple yet so very important! Most often I see that people don't dress the part and I've even had that experience. I love fashion, don't get me wrong, but there have been times in the office where I've worn something overly trendy and it wasn't seen as professional. It really does make a huge difference in how colleagues perceive you. I especially love the second tip, and really learning your strengths. If you work on a team, then it's so important to learn how to delegate based on your strengths and the strengths of your team members.

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  8. It is one of my favourite characters from GOT. I love how she evolved and grew stronger, of course love the actress.
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  9. Yaaass! I love when people draw analogies like this and write about them. I find it to be so witty. Yes to all for girl bosses!

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  10. I have never watched Game of Thrones, but my son loves this character for her inner strength.

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  11. Wow to see the many ways that this show has inspired you makes me think that I need to check it out at least one time. Looks interesting.

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  12. This is so beautiful perspective keeping in mind Daenerys's transformation. I so agree with you that the clothes we wear do have the power to transmit the inner energy in us. Great points.

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  13. Love this blog!! She was my favorite character when I was still watching the show!

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  14. I love these kind of posts from you!! THey are always so fun and interesting to read. I didn't watch GOT but I love these girlboss tips, second one is my favorite one!!

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  15. Ok, I really want to watch this! I have never even gotten to see it, and heard a ton about it. She certainly sounds like THE girl boss!!

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  16. Oh I absolutely love the Mother of Dragon! She is a perfect example of girlboss!

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  17. Completely agree that Daenerys is a true example of a girl boss! I love how she still has a good heart compared to Cersei Lannister and other people in her position.

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